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Fathers days self improvement

Exhumis

Exhumis

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In light of Father’s Day I thought I’d share some musings.
I’m always working on self improvement. I suck at it thus it’s a work in progress and will be continual till the day I die. It’s my belief that we owe it to ourselves, our Creator, our families and our society.
Toward that end one thing I’m working to curb is my potty mouth. Uncle Sam instilled in me an amazingly profane vocabulary and the propensity to use it. I don’t like this about myself now that I’m a civilian, one of Gods children and especially now that I have kids. Some days are better than others but I measure success in the ability to refrain and exercise control.
 
Exhumis said:
In light of Father’s Day I thought I’d share some musings.
I’m always working on self improvement. I suck at it thus it’s a work in progress and will be continual till the day I die. It’s my belief that we owe it to ourselves, our Creator, our families and our society.
Toward that end one thing I’m working to curb is my potty mouth. Uncle Sam instilled in me an amazingly profane vocabulary and the propensity to use it. I don’t like this about myself now that I’m a civilian, one of Gods children and especially now that I have kids. Some days are better than others but I measure success in the ability to refrain and exercise control.
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I wish you the best of luck in curbing that. Uncle Sam instilled the very same vocabulary in me. I’ve read somewhere that swearing is a sign of intelligence. I have no source, but I’m a believer.
 
Good on you buddy! Folks everywhere will thank you. :D

Navy did that for me too. Seriously though, think about how many times a day you say the same 4 to 8 or 9 words. Get creative at expressing your thoughts instead! Some of my favorites now are:

Drat!
Oh boogers!
Mephibosheth!
Snake oil!
 
I have to admit my own choice of words could be improved upon. I will say though being on this forum has helped me quite a bit though as I find myself having to type alternates for the words that I'm actually thinking. I've found that process has carried over into my normal life as well though and I find myself using more of those "alternates" in my everyday life, not all the time mind you, but more often than I used to.
 
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I was issued Poetic Profanity in boot camp and got a doctorate while under water. My brain has a set of relays and interlocks to deploy or stow said profanity depending on where I am and who I am with. It’s completely involuntary and happens without effort. It’s kinda spooky actually.

I find tone of some “clean” language can be as if not more offensive than poetically descriptive profanity. But as I said, time and place and luckily that is regulated in me by what I can only describe as divinity.

As for self improvement? Yes indeed. Now I am on a quest for mindfulness and complete presence within the moment. So far it has been quite insightful. We’ll see where that all leads.
 
Back on track though…..I have been working on overall flexibility. I am too stubborn to do or try yoga, but we males are horrible at stretching as we age. As tree climbing high speed athletes, we should improve in this area. Shoulders, back, etc. That’s what I have been working on lately to better myself.
 
I was a sailor for 8 years and infantry for 6 and I was a drill instructor for a period in both branches and I will never apologize for my cursing It’s literally a part of me and it gets the points across, now I don’t use it loosely (depends on the circle I’m in) I know there’s a time and place but some things are just better said in such a way.
 
The_Fit_Ness_Monster said:
I was a sailor for 8 years and infantry for 6 and I was a drill instructor for a period in both branches and I will never apologize for my cursing It’s literally a part of me and it gets the points across, now I don’t use it loosely (depends on the circle I’m in) I know there’s a time and place but some things are just better said in such a way.
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I used knife hands talking to my sons soccer team the other day and the wife was like yeah, you should probably stop doing that.
 
Zero One Actual said:
Back on track though…..I have been working on overall flexibility. I am too stubborn to do or try yoga, but we males are horrible at stretching as we age. As tree climbing high speed athletes, we should improve in this area. Shoulders, back, etc. That’s what I have been working on lately to better myself.
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Man you ain’t kidding. My physical therapist likes to joke she’s seen boards with more flexibility. I used to read the news with my morning tea. Now I foam roll and stretch.
 
Zero One Actual said:
Back on track though…..I have been working on overall flexibility. I am too stubborn to do or try yoga, but we males are horrible at stretching as we age. As tree climbing high speed athletes, we should improve in this area. Shoulders, back, etc. That’s what I have been working on lately to better myself.
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Hard right turn here... what stretches do you suggest sir?
 
Exhumis said:
I used knife hands talking to my sons soccer team the other day and the wife was like yeah, you should probably stop doing that.
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Glad I’m not the only one who knife hands their kids.

I’m into the stretching. But I’m a yoga guy.

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1st off, Thank You, to all who have served our country. Hope everyone has a great Memorial Day.

I too, cuss like a sailor. But mostly at myself :sweatsmile: . Im a year away from being an empty nester, and as for self improvement I want to spend more time with the kids. Who knows, maybe when college is done they'll have time again to hunt with me.

As for us guys getting older, man I dont have near the flexibility I used to. 30 yrs of hockey or hanging/finishing drywall is probably the culprit. My Dads been doing Tai Chi, my Mother is a seniors Tai Chi instructor, & he swears by its results. Guess its time to give it a try. Im sure less beer & more water would help too.
 
I’m also on the stretching bandwagon. After the Marine Corps and being a cop for 25 years my body was a mess. I physically couldn’t run or workout anymore. This year I started stretching twice a day and I’ve been able to workout and run again for the first time in about 4 years. I’m a believer!
I’m not flexible enough yet for yoga, but that’s my goal.
 
Just to add to the stretching, I do yoga more now than ever before and I will tell you, calisthenics and powerlifting for 2 decades and yoga is still a “hard workout”. A huge misconception I will say is that you should never stretch before a workout or hard physical activity, warm up, yes but stretching before is a no no. Stretching and rolling is an after workout mitigation tool. At 34 I can still roosta like I usta the only difference is there’s a lot more mitigation practice after the fact to be able to get going the next day lol remember as we age agility and coordination are the first to go, strength goes last, I say that bc I see a lot of older guys that can lift well but when it comes to doing basic calisthenics they fall apart, focus more on the mind body connection and keeping all those fast twitch muscles firing, lift weight to maintain but as we age it should shift to more agility stuff bc that what fades first. And again I will suggest the book “ Becoming a Supple Leopard” it is a fitness bible and everyone who even considers fitness of any kind should own this book and be familiar with its tool. Oh and Happy Memorial Day to all you guys!! Hopes y’all are getting some good family time and food today.
 
I have been experiencing a worsening hip problem the last year or so. Tried chiropractic, but it didn't help with the problem. Finally decided to talk to a yoga instructor who specializes in working with 50+ (I'm only 47, but feel 77 most of the time!) She is giving me a complimentary one on one tomorrow, she seems confident I'll find relief.
God, I hope so!
 
Exhumis said:
Toward that end one thing I’m working to curb is my potty mouth. Uncle Sam instilled in me an amazingly profane vocabulary and the propensity to use it. I don’t like this about myself now that I’m a civilian, one of Gods children and especially now that I have kids. Some days are better than others but I measure success in the ability to refrain and exercise control.
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I had a (bilingual) supervisor ask us to help him curb his profanity. Reserve Airborne Captain, he could swear with impressive style and creativity. So he announced that if we caught him cursing, we could drop him for pushups. When we asked if cursing in Spanish counted, he got a deer-in-the-headlights look, mumbled "I'll get back to you on that one sir", and we never heard of it again.
 
I have been trying to do some self-improvement based on what my wife is telling me. But honestly, I don't know if I'm very good at it since part of the issue is I'm too honest. No, really, not BSing.

Basically wife tell me that my emotion are too easy to read by my facial expression. That when I'm not in a good mood, the kids can clearly see it. It affect them and it brings the mood of the whole house down. Especially if I had a long day at work, its dishearten to them because it seem like I wasn't happy to be home or see them. She want me to learn to show happy an expression when I walk in.

I countered with the view that I'm allow to express/show that I'm tire, especially in my own home.

So we compromised, I'll try harder to be in the moment and realizes how lucky I am to have such a great family, which I do, and smile more. And if I need to take a little 'shortcut' driving home after a long day, no questions asked.
 
Exhumis said:
In light of Father’s Day I thought I’d share some musings.
I’m always working on self improvement. I suck at it thus it’s a work in progress and will be continual till the day I die. It’s my belief that we owe it to ourselves, our Creator, our families and our society.
Toward that end one thing I’m working to curb is my potty mouth. Uncle Sam instilled in me an amazingly profane vocabulary and the propensity to use it. I don’t like this about myself now that I’m a civilian, one of Gods children and especially now that I have kids. Some days are better than others but I measure success in the ability to refrain and exercise control.
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I'm trying to spend less time on my phone around my daughter. Tough habit to break but a phenomenally stupid habit to have acquired.

Also, sleep better, work out more, eat right, bla bla bla.
 
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