Thank you to everyone who gave me advices. It was really helpful and open my eyes to a lot of things that I did not consider. We had a long and productive talk, and I honestly found that my wife was a more open to what I say then I feared. One of our main issue was communication, for me, my problem was holding my anger when things bother me, letting it fester until I snap at something totally unrelated. My wife does similar things, she does not tell me when something bother her at the moment it happens, but then make a big deal of something totally unrelated, which in turn make me mad because I feel she is making a big issue of a small matter, not knowing that something else is bothering her.
But anyway, just wanted to let that out and I am more relax and hopeful for the future. We talk and we decided to not hold each other to quotas or promises of 'time allowed'. That I get 1-2 days during the rut for all day sits, but the rest of the season we'll play by ears. That if there is nothing plan, I should not hesitant to ask if I can spend a few hours in the woods. She said she was glad that I offer mornings and evenings sit only, that is a lot more manageable, instead of the all day sits that I keep planning to do. One of my issue was that l felt guilty requesting time for myself, which is basically what hunting is right now since the kids are still too young. So I had internal struggle with doing the right thing and being a good father; while not losing myself and finding my own space to breath/get away sometimes. But she told me that she promise not to be offended if I ask, as long as I'm ok if the answer is no based on the situation. She was right, when we had fixed time or schedule for me to go hunt, but situation came along like weather or family stuff, it really annoyed me and I let it fester too, I know life happens, but subconsciously it was still there.
My wife used to get really upset and bitter when I started getting into hunting. She finally talked to me about why. Her father was really passionate about it when she was growing up. They never went on family vacations. He saved up all his time off for hunting season each year. She didn't even see him at all some days because he would go hunting after work and return late at night. He would go back to WV for rifle season which is Thanksgiving week, she can't remember a single Thanksgiving that they spend together. Which I finally realized was true. It just never bother me because we have a Thanksgiving dinner without him, but I can see how that affect you as a single child as my wife was. My wife fear that I will turn into her father. Which I can see her worries, he's the one that got me into hunting and I do feel a sense of hero worship whenever I hang out in his man cave with dozens of mounts. But I tell her I know where my priorities and dedications are. The family. That nothing is going to make me miss Thanksgiving or anything that are important. I'll take the kids to the park over hunting any day of the week.
Anyway thanks for the group therapy session guy! This was cheaper then marriage counseling!