In NJ there are no antler restrictions in most of the state (certain zones it's 3 points on one side). You can shoot up to 6 antlered bucks a year. Not to mention all the button bucks that get shot because they're usually first to a bait pile, and all the shed bucks that get shot in February. Most hunters mentality, especially on public land, is to shoot any buck they see before someone else does. Baiting is legal even on public land, which makes for sloppy hunters and conditioned deer. When I've hunted out of state I've noticed that the "average" hunter is a better hunter than in NJ. They have to be since they can't rely on bait bringing the deer to them.
My goal posts move all the time depending on what my scouting is telling me. Some years, like last year, that means not settling for any less than a mature P&Y buck. This year I had 3 mature bucks (4.5+ yr old) located, with one pushing 150" as an 8 point. I found 2 of them dead from EHD on opening week and haven't seen the other since late July. Looking for another big one, but now I'll shoot the first solid 3.5 year old that gives me a good shot. Won't shoot a 2.5 in NJ anymore. It's a long season and I can hunt just about every day, so I can afford to be picky around home. Earlier this season I had a nice 2.5 old 9 point inside 10 yards on an out-of-state hunt. I wish I would have shot him. He would have been my first out-of-state buck and I would have been proud. Had a similar buck in bow range in NJ the other day and didn't even think about reaching for the bow, so I guess it's all situational.