Checking in again, I feel like I'm on a bit of an upward trajectory here, we've gotten through probably 98% of the paperwork and decisions with mediators, to the point that they told us to finish on our own and schedule another session if we need to so the finish line is in sight, hopefully. She's trying to extract as much $ from me as possible in the short term but after some meetings with financial pros and returning to the advice I've had to treat it like paying a fine and move on, it looks like I'll weather that storm and come out the other side with most of what I wanted, 50% custody, keeping my truck and house etc. It's not a done deal yet and even typing this out makes me worry about jinxing it but so far so good. Most importantly, the kids seem happy again. They still have moments here and there where they miss their mom when they are with me/me when they are with her, and I'm sure this will ebb and flow but what a relief we all feel not being in an arguing parents household any more. So many reminders that this was the right decision.
The next few months will surely come with their various challenges, but it feels good to have most of this dealt with and a light at the end of the tunnel. Likely will still be a while before everything is done and nothing is set until it's legally official so not counting any chickens yet, there's still a lot of process to go, but that should be more navigating courts and bank paperwork and such, a lot of which is a solo process. Woohoo!
The next few months will surely come with their various challenges, but it feels good to have most of this dealt with and a light at the end of the tunnel. Likely will still be a while before everything is done and nothing is set until it's legally official so not counting any chickens yet, there's still a lot of process to go, but that should be more navigating courts and bank paperwork and such, a lot of which is a solo process. Woohoo!
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