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Sowing Some Romance

I've been married for a pretty long time and I think people overcomplicate it. Establish an equal partnership and don't accept anything less from either party.

If it's OK for you to be gone for days or weeks for hunting, it's OK for them to do the same for whatever activities they choose. You spend hundreds on saddle gear, don't question their purchases. On average, you share an equal burden and whatever is OK for one is OK for the other.

Also, fight. You should be able to argue and talk to each other about things the other does that bother you. Don't let things slide and build resentment.

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Randy Newberg has a few videos that give advices for married hunters that are solid gold. One of the thing that I hold strong to are 'Peace, not justice." Her happiness is more important that your need to be right, especially when you're right ;).

Also I learned to baked and I put in the extra little steps to make treats. She has a sweet tooth and I'm popular with the kids also.
 
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Jay_Disarray said:
Coming up on 20yrs together soon, it's definitely a partnership, we each do what needs to be done, and generally know that we are each pitching in all year round. I may slack a bit when I'm always out the door for the woods, but household chores always get done.

She has no problem with me going hunting 3-4 times a week during bow season. She knows I enjoy it, and am going, and accepted it. I practice in our yard several times a week, to train for hunting season, so during season its game time.

We just don't see something like going hunting as a source of contention, or anything to argue about. It's a cheap activity and I really enjoy it.

I'm so glad I married a medium maintenance woman
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Cheap activity!!!!!!!!!! hahahahahahahaha lolololololololol what planet you from.
 
HuumanCreed said:
Randy Newberg has a few videos that give advices for married hunters that are solid gold. One of the thing that I hold strong to are 'Peace, not justice." Her happiness is more important that your need to be right, especially when you're right ;).

Also I learned to baked and I put in the extra little steps to make treats. She has a sweet tooth and I'm popular with the kids also.
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Wise man!
 
CooterBrown said:
Cheap activity!!!!!!!!!! hahahahahahahaha lolololololololol what planet you from.
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If you own the stuff you need to hunt, a tag is $35, and I can go out for as long as it takes to fill out my tag. If it's still super expensive for you to spend an evening in the woods, perhaps you're doing it wrong or over complicating it.

Hell a night out to dinner for just the wife and I can easily double that.
 
CooterBrown said:
Cheap activity!!!!!!!!!! hahahahahahahaha lolololololololol what planet you from.
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I know my venison costs more than the finest Wagyu beef. LOL! Must be doing something wrong. ;)

No, Jay…I get it. Once you have your stuff (especially if you bought quality) you can be set for a while. Especially if you don’t reload and constantly tinker like most of us do, it doesn’t have to be an insanely expensive hobby. Just most of us aren’t good at being content with our current setup. This is coming from a guy that has been saddle hunting for all of one season and yet I already know, haha.
 
TexaninSconny said:
I know my venison costs more than the finest Wagyu beef. LOL! Must be doing something wrong. ;)

No, Jay…I get it. Once you have your stuff (especially if you bought quality) you can be set for a while. Especially if you don’t reload and constantly tinker like most of us do, it doesn’t have to be an insanely expensive hobby. Just most of us aren’t good at being content with our current setup. This is coming from a guy that has been saddle hunting for all of one season and yet I already know, haha.
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So over complicating it then, my biggest "expenses" for deer hunting now is the 12 arrows I buy yearly. I tinker. I own my own bow press, and everything I need to work on my own bow, and mess with it as needed.

Average price of ground beef in the US right now is $4.63. Average poundage of venison per deer is 58lbs. That would mean if we paid regular ground beef price per pound, a deer would cost $268. Add in that many states allow multiple deer, for this one let's say 2. That would allow one to spend $536 annually on deer hunting and still only reach ground beef prices, I just don't see waygu prices.
 
Still Kicking said:
After 70 and both retired, my lovely spouse is pretty eager to get me out of her "domain" for a while. Also, she loves venison.:wink:
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Similar here, 28 years together. She has not once given me any grief about the LARGE amount of time I spend deer hunting away from home every year. Any more she simply refers to the rut as "Her Vacation". :tearsofjoy:
 
Grest ideas but, lol. Ive bern with my wife for over 30 years. I think if i did sny of that dhe would absolutely finally have me commited to some sort of mental instution or swear i was on drugs. Lol.
a great relationship really relies on talking snd compromise. Ya cant always have or get what ya want. But you can try. Lol
Most times its the way something is presented to your significant other.
voice tone, dont be defensive, or with woman never be condescending at sll. Lol
They all hate that.
most times just shut up and listen to them whatever its about and make her believe you are really listening.
selective hearing does not help.
lol
Remember men and women are different in everything and we need to remember that.
compromise and talk.
 
Exhumis said:
I’m pretty sure that’s what my wife tells people. He’s an ugly cuss for sure but damn can he tile a kitchen and plumb in a bathroom like nobody’s business.
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For the handsome, it's better not to let on you're good at these things. You've got it made already and there is no reason to have to deal with roadblocks as a result of competence.
 
Fellas, the whole point of this thread was to help guys out who have the struggles with their wife when hunting season comes around. If that’s not you no need to tell us in the comments. ;) We can start a separate thread called “Ways to Deal with Pride and Narcissism” for you.

This is geared probably more-so for the younger guys who have young kids at home mostly. If you were never in this spot then good for you, but lets not act like there aren’t a lot of guys who don’t struggle with these arguments come hunting season.
 
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